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AIO for asking my parents to leave after my mom grabbed my wife’s belly and asked if she was pregnant ?
We all have them, for better or for worse – parents. As we grow older and stop being children, we still lean on them for advice or an alternate perspective, not to mention the stories they have told us over the years. But even the best of parents can make mistakes.
Take this newlywed couple’s experience. His parents bought a new house an hour away from their home. They were invited for dinner and… you’ll see.
My (29m) beautiful wife (30f) had gained a significant amount of weight after our wedding. I think she’s gorgeous but she’s insecure about how she looks now. My mom (49f) and dad (53m) had bought a house that is an hour drive from us
The 4 of us were supposed to have a lovely dinner at my home. My parent had arrived early and my wife hadn’t changed out of her cooking clothes. She was wearing this tight t shirt.
So they arrived early, that’s not good. Aren’t they the generation that taught us to be fashionably late? But wait, there’s more! and by that I mean it gets worse.
My mom saw my wife, my mom grabbed my wife’s belly and asked my wife if she was pregnant. My wife said no, that she’s just getting fat. I didn’t want a massive argument so I rushed my parents out. Basically telling them we have reschedule, congratulations on the new house, and we’ll save them some food. I then assured my wife as she started to cry.
I understand the mom getting excited and acting without thinking. Even with that ah should have known better than to grab her belly. But the husband did exactly the right thing. They needed to be removed from the situation before they could make it worse, which absolutely would have happened if the day had continued. Especially since the wife cried as soon as they left, there is no way she would have held herself together for long.
Several days later, I talked to my parents by myself. My mom said that she had made a mistake but I had taken it too far by asking them to leave. I basically explained that I only seen that evening getting worse. My dad said that by not allowing my mom to apologize on that day, that I made them seem like jerks to my wife. I told my parents my mom can apologize now but my parents say that now it will seem to my wife that they’re apologizing because I told them to. Am I overreacting ?
So it’s good that mom acknowledges she made a mistake. But the Husband clearly knows his parents and he knew it wasn’t gonna get better. They prove it with their refusal to apologize. They have their excuses but the wife deserves an apology and for the parents to wax poetic about how beautiful she is, preferably focusing on how she looks better than she did at the wedding!
What are your thoughts? Comment below!